About

What ARE you?

You CAN’T be ________________.

Oh so you’re really ____________ then.

It’s time to let the world in on some new truths…

I’m a compulsive communicator, a lifelong writer and proudly militant Mulata who believes that everyone deserves to be acknowledged and respected for their true selves, to define rather than be defined, and to self-identify according to their own rules and realities.

I created Black and Blewish to frolic in the many facets and fascinations of color, culture, identity and community. To honor ancestry, confront isms, challenge his-story, deconstruct  codes, and celebrate all of the complexities and contradictions of our multifaceted selves.

Thanks to our first Biracially Black President, Barack Obama, the browning of the populace, and evolving categories in the U.S. Census striving to keep up with reality, the entire nation is having an identity crisis. And all things Biracial are trending—being explored and debated in the public sphere as never before.

But there’s a problem: While we may be a hot topic, we’re rarely acknowledged as the authorities on our experiences and the authors of our identities. Many non-Biracials think they know more about us than we know about ourselves. They presume expertise, bombarding us with their opinions, telling rather than asking, pontificating rather than listening, rarely even thinking to consider OUR voices and views.

That’s why I created Black and Blewish.

The day of self-definition and very inconvenient truths is here. Fair warning: buttons will be pushed, assumptions confronted, and conventional “wisdom” challenged. If you’re looking for tragic, you’re in the wrong place. This here is a celebration of the diversity that is both the sweetness and the spice of life.

Ground Rules:

1. Please bring your A-game to the comments. We can agree to disagree, but RESPECT is required at all times. No name-calling, insults, slurs or anything that would shame your elders or be a bad example to your descendants.

2. All relevant proper nouns are upper-cased: Biracial, Black, White, Asian, Latino, Native American, Mixed, etc. Lower-case = deliberate disrespect, which is not welcome here.

3. Core premise: There is no one correct way to define or “be” Biracial, no right or wrong way to self-identify.

4. Nobody gets to tell another person what they are, how they should affiliate, or how they should self-identify. Period.

Let’s all free our minds so our behinds can follow!

 

TaRessa

2 thoughts on “About

  1. It is wonderful to see you’re really starting on this journey. As the parent of a biracial child (is it ageist to call a 44 year-old a child?), I watched as he worked to identify himself in a world which only wanted to identify him according to its comforts. Thanks for helping the next generations, of which there will be many…

  2. Hello TaRessa:
    I just read your blog regarding colorism in the aftermath of “Dark Girls” and you’re so right about quibbling being done over a mere crumb. I’m not Biracial, but my cultural identity is split three ways between The United Kingdom, Jamaica and The United States. Trust me, from a Euro-Caribbean aspect, I’ve seen much of the colorism you mention. In fact, the very three sentences that start your page are very familiar in to me too — however, it is due to voice and not visage. The vestiges of slavery are globally debilitating. Remember, the part in “Dark Girls” where the brown skinned man the Dominican Republic told of his experiences dating? This is all too common throughout the Caribbean diaspora. I look forward to your entries.

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